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there are a few things that I have found disturbing with girls ever since high school and I found an article on the matter that pretty much makes you think

The Nice Guy Gets the Shaft

by Garrett Hols
Edited by Seth Matheson



Disclaimer: This document doesn’t apply to all women and should not be taken as such.



It’s damn frustrating that girls always seem to go for the Asshole. The Asshole knows how the game is played though, all he wants is sex, but he pretends to only want to be with the Girl. The Asshole will act nice, friendly, and even listen to the Girl… until they get into what they’re after. The girl thinks they are in love with the Asshole, however when they realize what a jerk the he really is, they pretend the Asshole is actually nice inside. The girl then tries to change the Asshole into a nice guy, but the Asshole will always be a jerk. She gets upset and goes to The Nice Guy to complain about the Asshole. But she claims to love the Asshole … now this is where the theory begins. She doesn’t want to look like she is easy so she wont dump the Asshole right away; instead she will stay with the Asshole. Girls are idiots. They don’t realize that The Nice Guy has been there all along. He never had to pretend to be a good guy to get girls because he is naturally like that. However, girls don’t see it for some reason or another. They look at The Nice Guy as a friend, a trusted companion to whom they can tell their sad story to about the Asshole, their boyfriend.

The Nice Guy isn’t that naïve. Ok, perhaps he does want something a bit more physical, but sex is a pretty strong driving force for any male. The thing is, The Nice Guy also wants to be with the Girl and spend time with her. The main problem seems to be that since he is a good guy he keeps listening. Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy only as a friend, just a friend. They don’t say, “Oh he’s hot” or “I wouldn’t mind going out on a date with him” about The Nice Guy, they just want the emotional support. When the Girl gets emotional support from The Nice Guy, they don’t need it from the Asshole. The Nice guy gets the shit end of the stick while the Asshole gets the Girl. You start to wonder if being The Nice Guy is really the route to take to get the Girl.

Perhaps another reason why girls fall for the Asshole is because assholes ignore the Girl they are with. The women wonder, “Why isn’t he paying attention to me?” so they explore why. They poke and prod and get closer to the Asshole. They start to get easier with each attempt to get closer. The Asshole finally says, “I’ve let this beauty dangle long enough.” It is then he puts on his charade and the Girl feels like she has won him … even thought all she has won is the Asshole. Once you have gone down the path as The Nice Guy or a “listener” you can’t turn back. The girl will always go after the Asshole because there will always be The Nice Guy there to listen. Once you realize that you are a “listener” you cant do anything about it; just pack up and close shop. There is no way you will get the Girl. Ever. There isn’t and never will be a situation where The Nice Guy will get the girl he has a crush on. It just doesn’t work like that. The girl wont “come to her senses” and realize what an asshole her boyfriend is like in the movies … instead she will just go after another asshole, and unless you stop being The Nice Guy, she will never go after you. Women complain that there are no nice guys in the world. Right. They are obviously not looking hard enough because there are nice guys all over the place. Girls aren’t looking for nice guys; they say they are but they’re not. They are looking for the perfect Asshole, but there is no such thing as a perfect Asshole.

All in all, the nice guy gets the shaft. To all the Girls out there with boyfriends that don’t treat you with respect, that don’t listen to you, and that don’t care about you, think about this; look next to you. The guy that has been standing next to you the whole time is the guy you have been looking for. He is what you want your Asshole to be like. He knows more about you than you know about yourself… because he has listened to it all.

Credit: Garrett Hols

Mack's thoughts:
Now, I do have a girlfriend who I am very much happy with. I just thought about this topic the other day when I overheard a conversation at a recent game between one of my female players and a male player. It made me think back when I was the listener to the "girl"'s problems between her and her asshole boyfriend. We never got together, which I can say that I'm glad we didn't. But the fact remained that even though the girl was being treated like shit, she did not want to leave the asshole. It's just mind boggling. I know that pretty much of this crap is high schoolish shit, but the truth is, this keeps on going even after High School.

I really need some advice here guys.

For the past month, me and Jennifer have been on a rocky road. I just recently moved to Charleston, SC but I was originally suppose to move up to Queens,NY. Due to certain circumstances, I was unable to move to NY. (Mom got in the way.) I am currently unemployed and have since Nov of 05. I quit my last job because the bossman decided to give me only 2 days a week to work and that barely paid the gas to go into my truck. I have saved quite a sum of money to move to NY and spent 7 months looking for a suitable apartment and register to school. After I moved to Charleston, Jennifer found out that I was registering to a Technical College instead of a 4 yr University. This upset her for some reason. I tried to explain that I did not do well on the SAT or have the amount of credits to transfer to a university. She began to say that I am not trying hard enough and that I need to get out there and find a job and such. I again tried to explain that I have been looking for work either online or walking downtown Charleston from business to business looking for some type of work. Unfortunately, it all came up short. Well, a few days ago, I found out that my former college has not sent out my transcript to the college I am registering for now. This means that I have to drive 3hrs just to sign a few pieces of paper. I told Jennifer of this and she was fine with this and I told her that I was going to head back to charleston early in the morning so that I can get back to searching for work. She said Great and I told her that I would call her when I got home. The next day, I get ready to head back, however, my mom asks me to help her with some work at her sister's house. Seeing how I have the only truck in the family. I said sure. I didnt get away til 1:30 in the afternoon. I called up Jennifer to explain that I had to help my mother out that I would not be home til 4 in the afternoon. This set her off and says that all I do is make up excuses and dont take responiablity. She also says "I was hoping for a nice day today, but thanks for making my life miserable now." This upsets me greatly. I dont know what to do anymore. I love her to death but I dont like to be treated this way. I tell her that I'm trying my best, but apparentlly it aint good enough for her. I really need some advice here guys. It seems like she's interested in the material value of the relationship rather than the emotional value. You see, I rather be poor and happy with the one I love than to be rich and miserable.
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Assassin
You are an assassin.
That means you are a proffessional and do your

job without mixing any emotions in it. In

your life you have probably been hurt many

times and have gotten some mental scars. This

results in you being distant from people.

Though many think that you are evil, you are

not. What you really are is a person, trying

to forget your pain and past. You are the

person who never seems to care and that is

why being an assassin fits you good. Atleast,

that's what people think. Even if you don't

care that much for your victims, you still

have the ability to care and to generally

feel. It is not lost, just a little

forgotten. In crowds you tend to not get to

noticed, and dress in black or other discrete

colours. You don't being in the spotlight and

wish people would just leave you alone. But

once you do get close to someone you have a

hard time letting go and get real down if you

loose him/her.

Main weapon: Sniper
Quote: "The walls we build around

us to keep out the sadness also keep out the

joy" -Jim Rohn
Facial expression: Narrowed eyes


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2005 wrap up

January: The Graniteville Train wreck takes a toll on the area
February: Work and school, the endless cycle
March: Graniteville clean up is complete, passed out on St. Patty's Day
April: Found out that a co-worker likes me. Hope this goes well.
May: Jennifer and I are offically a couple, but we try to keep it on the DL,which doesnt last.
June: Working and schooling
July: My sweetheart moves to NYC, sad is Michael
August: Regester for school again
September: Took a trip to NYC for my birthday to see my Jennifer
October: Boss is hinting his going to fire me (deducting my hours)
November: Thanksgiving and my Jennifer is home for one day.

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Ok it has brought to my attention that some jerk off believes that my journal is "unoriginal" due to that i put lyrics, pics, and other things throughout my journal. Ok first off, I'm sorry that my journal doesn't appeal to your standards on how a journal should be like. Second, I believe that I can put anything I want in my journal, because *gasp* tis is my journal. Either this is unknown person is really someone I know in real life, or really has nothing else to do with his/her life than look up random journals and bitch, moan, and complain about how "unoriginal" there are because the owners put things from other sites on it. Grow the Fuck up you ball sack!
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I hurt myself today
To see if I still feel
I focus on the pain
The only thing that's real
The needle tears a hole
The old familiar sting
Try to kill it all away
But I remember everything

What have I become?
My sweetest friend
Everyone I know
Goes away in the end
You could have it all
My empire of dirt
I will let you down
I will make you hurt

I wear this crown of thorns
Upon my liar's chair
Full of broken thoughts
I cannot repair
Beneath the stain of time
The feeling disappears
You are someone else
I am still right here

What have I become?
My sweetest friend
Everyone I know
Goes away in the end
You could have it all
My empire of dirt
I will let you down
I will make you hurt

If I could start again
A million miles away
I would keep myself
I would find a way